This is what happened. For some time at the elemantery school where my kids attend. I would notice my husband would drool over one of the office staff at the school. I tried to ignore it. One day i got home early and my husband didnt know that I was home and i heard his wonderful conversation he was having with his mistress. i heard enough details to basically know he was cheating. At that moment i was devastated and i kept asking who it was and he would tell me then i told him was it that lady at the school you are always drooling about and he told me yes it was her.
After knowing this, i decided i wanted to talk to this staff member. I called her in may of this year. wheni called and told her i need to discuss with hersomething important regarding her and husbnad she would hang up on me. I had to call back at least 8 times finally she didnt hang up and i told her that I needed to talk to you about a private matter and i have been trying to reach you at home becuz i felt maybe it was not apporiate to talk about this over the phone at the shcool. So she told me go ahead and call her home. So i called that night told her why she was cheating with my husband and she kept claiming i was wrong. I told her that i know the truth and then I told her i would complain the the school about her conduct and she said go ahead and tell the principal I already told her about this. i said this not appropriate behavior. I left it that. I was hurt and upset. My husband finally moved out. I decided to call the school a month ago to speak with anyone other than her and the principal or her becuz she made it seem as they have friendship and i felt i twas biased.
I called he school spoke to a woman by the name of tracey told her i would liek to make an anonymous complaint and i cant do it with the principal becuz the person i am complaining about made it seem as the thought principal would be biased. Tracy asked me for my name and I told her I cannot tell you my name becuz i feel that it would create a hostile enviorment or that my children would be treated wrong or that there would retaliation. I also told her the whole story that her staff member that works in the office of the school was having an affair with my husband and I was told by other moms that she is very flirtasious. Tracy insisted that i come in to speak with the principal and once again i reiterated that i feared it would affect my kids well being. I told her i would reconsider it.
After that i left it at that and i felt hurt that this woman destroyed my life so 2 weeks ago i called her home and i told her why did you do this. why do you continue to see my husband and she told me i was crazy. then i told her how would you feel if was cheating with your husband and she said he would never do this. he would never be with someone like you. i said well what if i told you its tool late.
Then i decided with my friend that the shchool will not do anything about this woman so i was going to teach her a little lesson.
my friend found all of her husbnads info. his cell phone where he works and we would call his number and hoping she would think why is his cell suddenly exploding and hoping she would answer. well she did and when she did i pretened to be his lover and she passed the phone to him and i said to him "why would you do that" and hung up. i left some fake text messages and vmails making it seem i was with him. liek why are you doing this to me i love you and so forth.
but no threats at all.
i no its wrong to get back at someone but she destroyed my life. i felt that now she would learn her lesson. Then her husband leaves a message saying that i destroyed his life and he would look for and for my kids. he said she lost his family and if I had proof if we were together.
then i freaked out and was scared. I called my husband that ia m separated from and i told him what happened and asked him are you sure she was the one. since he realized i was being threatened he told me that the lady at the school was not the one. I felt so bad. i couldnt believe it. He allowed me to accuse someone else. I believe he lied to me and used the school lady as a decoy so i wouldnt try to find out who is real mistress.
I felt bad and called 3 days ago to apologize to the shcool and specifically to her. I told her husband left me a threatening message and I dont blame him i was trying to teach you a lesson becuz of what she did to me. I told her i was sorry a million times i think i told her and the prinicipal the whole stroy that my husband lied and used her staff memeber as a decoy. I cried and told her it was hard for me and she told me she could help me but they needed to know who i was and i told her I dont feel safe becuz now the staffmembers husband is really upset and will get me and my kids so she told me that they filed a police report and I was liek What? I never made a threat and she said herself that she knows that I never made a threat either. However, maybe i can call the detective on the case and he can help you too. I told her why would i call him if you put a police report on me and i am only a parent calling to make a complaint. i made no threats. I told her you want me to call him becuz he will do somehting to me like charge me with somehting when i did nothing. then she said no he just wants to help and it would behelpful if you can explain the story to him.
so in good faith to show my sincere apology and becuz i trusted the principal i called him and he told me that he is aware i never made any threats. they have all the recorded phone calls but that he needed to konw who i was becuz if he didnt he has the power to chose the case with nothing and the power to charge me with callin anonymously and causing i think he used the work havoc with the staff members. he meant basically that i made the staff worried that i might do something and concerned becuz they crazy people doing crazy stuff at schools and I told him that i know that and why would i somehting like that. i told him my kids attend the shcool. Then he told me you will see me on Monday at a location you like and you will tell me who you are if not i will charge you with a misdemeanor for callling anonymous and creating some word he said i dont remember but i know it meant that i basically made the staff worried or scared that i might do something.but i kept telling him i made no threat and that if he checked the recordings he could see that i explain why i chose to remain anonymous. for the safety of my kids and me. someone at shcool coudl retatliate agianst my kids and now i have the husband that is upset with me becuz i was trying to teach him a lesson. he told me if i didnt see him that he already had warrants on the phone numbers i called in with and that he would find out who i was.
i never called the school more than 8 times in a row.
any suggestions to get a lawyer that is affordable becuz my financial situation is bad. i have no idea how much something like that would cost
However i want to remain anonymous for my safety and kids. is there any way a lawyer can send a notice to them
can they really do something to me i never made a threat. how can this be. i made a complaint. that is all.
Dismissed by the police or the school? The school told me that nothing was going to be done to me. that is why i called. i called in good faith. even the principal told me they are aware that i never made any threats to them. i do not want to reveal who i am becuz i feel threatened by her husband and for my kids sake. dont i have a right to remain anonoymous. my other questions is he said its confidential but he will tell the school who i am correct?
can you please give me the info for a lawyer. i cant afford 2500 dollars. the most i have si maybe 300. i am scared and dont know what to do. I never threatened anyone.
thank you for that information. but if i have no choice and i have to see this detective can he take me to jail if she meets me. he wanted to meet me anywhere i choose he told me i didnt have to tell him who i was. are there any suggestions that i should say or not say. all he kept asking is for me to say who i am. and his threat was if dont tell him then he will charge me with a misdemeanor
he told me i had to call him monday and meet him. i called a police department and presented my schenario to a community service officer. I told her everything and she told me that there is no penal code for remaining anonymous and if you made no threat this was no crime commited she was surprised the detective would talk to me this way.
Thank you so much for your help. I am sorry if I seem redundant. I am just so scared. Once again thank you for your help. i really appreciate it.
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