cases have been in the limelight for many years now. Prosecutors used to be kinder with these kinds of cases, and police too for that matter. Once upon a time your wife could have called the police and when they showed up she could have just said said that she'd had too much to drink and changed her mind, and the police would have gone away without making an arrest. DAs used to be that way too. But that was years ago. Today judges and prosecutors are afraid to look too soft on domestic violence and let someone off the hook who for all they know will go back and blow their spouse or ex away. So she will really have to jump through some hoops to get it dropped regardless of what she feels, and it is not always possible. However, in my experience, I've found that the following can work. Here's what she ought to do:
Contact the Prosecutor's office and ask to speak to the the prosecutor assigned to the her case. Then plan on meeting with that prosecutor (in person rather than on the phone), so he can understand how serious she is about not pursuing the case. Tell him she has no fears for safety, doesn't need a protective order, and that the police blew this up out of all proportion (if that's true). Say that she'd like to drop the charges and work out your difficulties without court
The prosecutor is almost certain to tell her that he will not let her drop, that it's his case and not hers, and that he can subpoena her, drag her into the courtroom in cuffs and requireher to testify for the state at the defendant's trial
. All of that is perfectly true.
However, while the prosecutor technically can go forward without her cooperation, unless there are witnesses, medical records or other evidence of violence, the state cannot generally win its case without the cooperation of the star witness -- your wife or girlfiend. And he's probably not going to be willing to invest a great deal of state funds in a trial that he'd be unlikely to win.
So he will keep the case open, at least until he's sure that you offer no real risk to her safety. Don't get depressed if she comes home from the prosecutor without getting what both of you want. Generally, as long as long as she doesn't change her mind, you'll start seeing some results and sooner rather than later, once you've got a lawyer.
At that point, she needs to let your lawyer know that she has been trying to drop charges but that the prosecutor won't allow it. She needs to ask for your lawyer's help. He will be happy to extend it because your lawyer wants what you and she both want -- for you to be able to walk away from these charges. Usually, when the state's star witness starts holding hands with the defense attorney and double-teams the prosecution, the judge eventually steps in and tells the state to consider dropping charges rather than continuing to waste the court's time on a case that looks like it's going nowhere. It may not always result in an outright dismissal, but if not the offer will usually be something very favorable to the defendant