Here is the situation:
18 August 2013: My then boyfriend assaulted me in a hotel room in Nebraska. I knew he was drunk and later, via text, he admitted to being on meth. But he restrained me and when I fought back, he punched me in the face. Choked me. Tried to rape
me. Threatened me with rape and death over a 2 hour period. When he passed out, I left and went to my parents.
19 August: I called the police in the town but I am active duty so I couldn’t get there until that Thursday. The officer asked me to come Friday so she could talk to me. I filed the report, got a case number XXXXX she said they would arrest him that afternoon. They went that night and the next afternoon but no one answered.
22 August: I took him his stuff only to see if he was remorseful about any of it and I thought if I stopped talking to him, he would get suspicious and run. His ex wife had filed a report on him 9 August in South Dakota but I didn’t know until after I brought him to KS and he said nothing happened that he pushed her to get away from her. I’ve known them 11 years and she is unstable but apparently wasn’t lying.
That Saturday he threatened me and I sent the texts to the police. The officer said she would keep me apprised.
28 August: They did finally show up and talk to him and took his statement. Then I was updated by the police that Thursday that county attorney wants more evidence because it’s “he said, she said” due to time lapse, conflicting version of events and no investigation
at the scene.
Also on 27 August, his mom told him about an app I put on his phone to track texts, calls and web searches. Even though she told me to call the cops – but I denied it to him but told the police about it. I got it out of the Google play store because I thought he was cheating or about to cheat. He did with his ex wife. We broke up I thought I deactivated it but when he threatened me, I checked out the website and it was still on. I haven’t used anything to harass or against him and I doubt I can use it in court
but he did talk about getting weed and meth from some dealers.
I just want to know what my options are in regards XXXXX XXXXX they don’t get enough evidence to file charges. The officer said she was going to the hotel to talk to personnel about the incident, review video and something about a witness and she would let me know.
I feel with the photos of my injuries can I somehow get court mandated anger management or rehab? He hasn’t been charged with assault but he did beat up his best friend (I saw that and his friend called 911 but didn’t pursue it), his ex wife (state patrol was called but no charges filed in Jan 2012) and his brother (nothing filed).
I just don’t want him to hurt or kill someone else and he needs to be responsible. I realize how stupid I was not going to the cops that day but I panicked and I can’t change it.