Welcome to JustAnswer.
I understand this is a stressful time. You will just need to take it one step at a time.
First, your boyfriend will need a lawyer. He can hire one or apply for a public defender if he is indigent. If he makes bond and works or has any assets he probably will not qualify as indigent.
It is not up to you whether he is charged. I've heard the "state picked it up" a thousand times, but it is not accurate. It's always the state versus a criminal
defendant. You could beg them to prosecute him or beg them not to prosecute him, but the decision is always with the state. It is their case not yours.
Having said that, you can certainly let the prosecutor know that you do not wish your boyfriend prosecuted, but because they have independent witnesses it may not matter. In all likelihood if this is his first domestic A&B he will be offered probation, fines, and domestic violence
To answer your specific questions:
But isn't there something we can do, I mean what will happen now?
He needs to turn himself in and go to court as directed. I would contact a bondsman before court if possible. I don't know if the $250 is the bond amount and he can just put that much cash up or if the bond will be higher such as $2,500 and they are referring to the bondsman's fee (typically 10%-15% of the bond amount). I would clarify that before court if possible to avoid spending any time in jail.
If his initial appearance is Monday he will likely be asked if he pleads guilty or not guilty. It is usually a good idea to plead not guilty at your first court appearance so that you have time to talk to a lawyer. He should only plead guilty at his initial appearance if they offer him a plea agreement
that he is in agreement with.
And I don't want him to twist my words cause he was scaring me and was just going off what the witnesses said?
If the case eventually goes to trial
, you will testify and give your account. If it differs from what the officer remembers you saying, then they can impeach you through the officer's testimony. It will be up to the jury who to believe.
and are they allowed to come there and bring up other things?
and are they allowed to come there and bring up other things? and are they allowed to act like that?
Yes & yes. There is no law that says the police cannot ask questions. That's what they do. Swearing at you was unprofessional, but no more illegal than if you swore at me. You can testify to that if it goes to trial. It may affect how the jury views their credibility.
Basically I just want to know if there is anything we can do, and what happens if they try to get me in court, I don't want anything to do with it!
Your boyfriend needs to get an attorney unless he pleads guilty on Monday. You can call or write the prosecutor's office and let them know your wishes. Ultimately it is their decision on whether and how to proceed. After you explain your wishes, it is out of your hands.
If you are subpoenaed to court, you must go. If you do not, you could be arrested. Obviously, if you are called to testify you should tell the truth.
Two closing thoughts:
(1) If this is his first domestic A&B and maybe even if it's not his first, this is a misdemeanor
crime. He's not going to prison and probably not even to jail assuming he can pay the bond. Probation and counseling is the most likely outcome.
(2) You should not let anyone you are in a relationship with hit you. Ever. For your own future safety, I would suggest that you start being more concerned about your own well being and less about his. Best of luck to you.