Welcome to JustAnswer.I am sorry that your daughter experienced this. Domestic violence is a serious but all too common crime. I certainly understand your concerns for your daughter especially with her being far from home and in a foreign country. You must feel somewhat helpless. Hopefully, I can ease some of your concerns and her concerns.(1) This will in no way negatively impact her college studies or career following. She is the victim and will suffer no legal consequences or stigma from that.(2) She does not need a lawyer. If the State of California prosecutes her ex-boyfriend, the District Attorney's (DA) office will look out for her best interests even though they do not technically represent her.(3) She can express her desire not to prosecute to the police and DA's office, but ultimately that is a decision the DA will have to make. Domestic violence is taken very seriously in the U.S. and most prosecutors are reluctant to drop charges even when the victim requests it. This is because many, many victims become injured at the hand of their spouse or boyfriend, report it, seek to drop charges, reconcile, and eventually become victims again. That does not sound like your daughter's situation, but that is what the prosecutors typically deal with. They also have the obligation to consider potential future victims (i.e., this man's next girlfriend) before dropping charges.(4) If the State prosecutes him, she will have to go to court to testify. This sounds scarier than it is. It happens every day and the professionals in the DA's office are usually pretty good at calming victims' fears.(5) If she really wants this guy to leave her alone, her best course of action would be to maintain the protective order and cooperate in the prosecution. Dropping charges may be the path of least resistance, but it sends a message to him that he can abuse women and get away with it. He will be more likely to continue with the harassment if charges are dropped. If she cooperates with authorities and he continues to harass her, he will be arrested and held in jail.(6) She may want to seek out counselors or advisers at her college who are familiar with the process and can ease her fears. There may even be some counselors/advisers who specifically work with students of Indian descent.
thanks for your compassion..
referring point 5 " maintain the protective order and cooperate in the prosecution" what if she does not want to go to court or cooperate in the prosecution..you know she is scared now...can that be avoided? if so at what cost
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