Contrary to what you think, I believe your lawyer has done a pretty good job here. You have acknowledged that you did
list your husband on your SNAP application while he was incarcerated and thus, you have committed a fraud. You don't have any defense to this case. A deferred adjudication allows you to walk away from a felony charge with a clean record. All you have to do is comply with the terms of your probation and make restitution for the overpayment.
That's really as good a deal as you could expect to get on a case involving fraud against the state. Based on what you've said here, you can expect that if you go to trial on the case -- even with the local equivalent of Perry Mason, whoever he or she may be -- that the state will be able to prove the fraud beyond a reasonable doubt. That will not only get you a prison sentence
, it will leave you with a felony criminal record
and you will still
have to make restitution payments to the state.
Prison accommodations are not pleasant, but if you had a fugitive warrant against you for a felony charge, every state in the country would hold you -- most often without bond, so you were quite lucky -- to wait to see if Texas wanted you back.
Every state honors another state's fugitive warrant. So the time you spent in jail getting back to Texas has nothing to do with the case waiting for you there. It's a separate matter which actually could have led to the charging of a separate crime, which it appears that Texas did not want to pursue.
You certainly do have a voice. You are never required to take an offer. You can stand by your plea of not guilty and get your day in court by electing to have your case go to trial. But if you do that, as this offer is for a deferred adjudication, it will go off the table once the case is indicted, and there willl be no changing your mind to get the deferral again.
The deal is as good as you're ever going to get since it will not result in a conviction and since the case against you is very strong.
Hope this helps you understand the circumstances.