It is New York indeed. I would like him to avoid any jail time or any serious prosecution. as far as home goes - I do want him home but for that I need to understand where his head is at. whether he acknowledges that what he has done is wrong. he plaid not guilty but I think it might of been his lawyer's guidance. Also I have not spoken to him ever since the incident because of the order of protection. Let me know what other info you need
I talked to DA and told her exactly as you say "you'll be happy enough with his pleading to a violation (less than a crime) so long as he can take a batterer's class and learn ow to manage his anger issues and you have a modified order of protection". He tried to smother me so faces strangulation charges. However she red to me his statement after and it shocked me as he stated none of it happened and its my imagination, he was just trying to leave. This made me concerned. I do not know where his head is at. And I dont want to find out by surprise. I talked to DA. She said she would call his lawyer. Does it mean the only thing I can do is sit and wait? How often do these cases end in divorce? There is a baby involved, I am working and have quite a visible job and need to make arrangements. Also in case he returns home as I don't want him to serve jail but I see that life together is impossible will I still be able to refer to his arrest in the Divorce Proceedings?
What if I were to call him - than the case could be dropped? The point is - I want this thing to end as soon as possible and I dont want my husband to be convicted of felony. I do think that counseling is what he needs though. What is best course of action in this case?
First of all - thank you for being very helpful and picking up my questions quickly. What my end goal is - is to:
- make sure my husband understands I dont wish him harm
- try to help him to avoid serious charges
- direct him into counceling
- understand if he has any remourse (do you think its possible his statement was guided by his lawyer?)
-see my husband as soon as possible
- try to work on our marriage, esp since the baby involved
- end this whole thing as soon as possible as it is very stressful and distracting.
- in case my husband wont be able to change - have protection and case in divorce.
Given that - what would you suggest as the best course of action? I just want to make sure I am clear and do not misinterpret anything.
Thank you! Just to close this off - after DA contacts him - do I just sit back and wait? There is nothing I can do after talking to DA which I did? I talked to them a week ago and its just dragging...
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