This is about possible harassment turned around.. In discussing a problem, my ex tactics is to turn a topic around or lie out right. I would start off texting about an issue concerning my son(s) and I want a direct answer. Generally, he would not give a direct answer to the issue or a solution. My ex does not want me to be happy or to help me help my sons. Ex would change the topic, by accusing me or blaming me for the problem or saying I am crazy. When I try to give my defensive explanation or my analysis of the problem. I find it is too much over his head and he results to not acknowledging his role, or responsibility..for why the boys are acting the way they do. So, many times it is useless and frustrating to a mother , me that i have to get my ex cooperation..because my boys are beholden to his financial dependency and emotional ties.
Like i said, I tried to get my son cooperation first by themselves, but it is not enough to convince them. They do not understand. Then I had called for a third party to be involved; help communicate, and spoke to son counselors, doctors, and even the Adult protective Services to no avail. I could not afford to do the Guardianship years ago., and now it is too hard to with their resistance. So, I have been texting on and off to no avail and I am going to stop again. My ex has started to provoke purposely on the text, and now I find I would text many times, and now sometimes I call him names..as irresponsible and selfish names. I am I afraid he will turn this as me harrassing him.
Ex is mad I have some of his money from divorce, and is mad I activated and informed the authority that he has been sexually harrassing me. The restraining order apply to him to protect me. We were divorced in another state and now we are in New York and it is activated . The restraining order prohibits any communication to me. I generally stop texting if he says stop or continue to text about my son a little more.
I am not happy with your response or maybe I do not understand it well. But I do understand that you said EVEN IF MY RESTRAINING ORDER SAID FOR HIM TO NOT COMMUNICATE to me. The Restr. order also pertains to me..to NOT TALK TO HIM ALSO. IS THIS CORRECT??
How can my texting to ex. about my son issues, such as school, taking their medicine correctly, or their disturbed behaviors be wrong. The Ex is the house parent guardian to take care of them. He is irresponsilble, and neglectful; even deliberately to hurt our emotional disturbed sons, inorder to provoke me.
So, is my texting to him (concerns/upsets) can be considered HARASSMENT? I DO NOT UNDERSTAND WHAT SECOND DEGREE OF Harassment means.?
Of course, I had to warn my Ex, that I will inform others about his poor behaviors and wrong doings to our sons.; To try to get his cooperation.!
Is this harrassment ? Can he uses this TYPE OF COMMUNICATION as harrassment ?
In OUR PAST, the courts did not even charge him for sexually harrassing me..It was his word against my word. He did this over the phone for years, until i went to court to reactivate my RO. and use a police officer to communicate. Now it is like my ex is deliberately trying to hurt my sons..to set me up. for harrassment. What am I to do?
I am sorry. i hear what you are saying, that I need to stop communicating to ex. This is the opposite of what I was advised I can do..according to / from my police officer friend.
I am having a migraine headache trying to read and understand all this. It is contrary. I am going to read up on second degree later, and if you don't mind, I can get back to this again.
I need to get away and take a break..if you don't mind. Thank you
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