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Hello Jenifer and Welcome to JustAnwer.com
Thank you so much
I am very sorry to hear about your difficult situation with your ex-boyfriend
Can you please tell me how long you have been together with him before the break up?
I also meant to ask once I get a temporary restraining order what do you think my chances could be to get ten years to permanent? Or can I just start out with permanent?
We will cover that question as we go along.
six weeks. we were together for two weeks then I broke up with him but he talked his way back. I thought he swore to me and he kept talking about my friend whose a girl is why we broke up but he never took balme and swore he never said a bad word to me.
so I took him back and he even fooled my therapist who I wanted him to meet her to help us make sure we were on the correct path. Sad I know lol
How old are you and how old is your ex?
It is okay
People make mistakes and don't always make decisions with their heads, but rather with their hearts.
in 40 and this was the most serious I have had. I thought I saw a future with him . he is 35, or 36 I forget
thank you for that!
Well, have you been ever physically threatened by this ex?
Does he own any weapons or have violent tendencies to the best of your knowledge?
no but when I broke up with him, in his apt which was so stupid, he tried to block me from leaving his bedroom by shutting the door..so I went into the den and he put in hands in front of my legs and begged me to not go..that is it,
Thank you for your follow up.
Have you reported any of this harassing and stalking activity to the police?
he said when he was in the sherrif accademy he was upset with a neighbor so he pulled a gun out of his car to have the neighbor back down, then his parents walked out ( allans did ) so he backed down and apoligized. but he said he graduated sherrif school yet he said he didn't want to be a sherrif bc he found it was to dangerous. that is like saying he didn't want to join the army bc he had to go to bootcamp or use weapons.. He posted it on his blog about the sherrif school and even had a uniform on but I am learning anyone can fabricate anything.
I mentioned it but am worried what will the result be if I do. I am worried if I only get a temporary one and they deny me a longer order. I have an aqaintance on the force who is the jewish community where we both are involved in and he said he would help me get a RO but I told him I wanted to think about it
what is the San Diego restraining order laws as far as how long do they last? I have three he violated...cyber stalking, harrasement and stalking.
Well, you would have to file a petition in local court for a restraining order and you would have to testify in court and present clear documented evidence of stalking by this ex.
Here is what you might want consider doing, if you don't feel that you are ready or want to go through all the legal proceedings involving a restraining order.
Do you have this ex's valid current residential address?
I don't need it, just let me know if you do or don't
no i know his condo building> i never paid attention to his unit.
i have his work address
Here is where you might want to start.
You might want to consult a local criminal law attorney and to have this attorney draft a very firm and strong warning notice for this ex to cease and decease any and all contact with you in any possible way. This local attorney can also put in the letter that if this ex in any way tries to contact you or approaches you, that this attorney will help you pursue criminal charges against the ex and also will help you seek a permanent restraining order.
This notice can be served on your ex by personal in hand service by a sheriff or a process service and this way not only your ex will be on notice to cease and decease any and all contact with you, but also your concern and warning will be documented properly.
If the ex fails to stop any and all contact with you, then the same attorney can help you pursue a restraining order and criminal charges against this ex.
Does that make sense?
thank you so much! would you also think it be smart and I do if I call the chiro to get eveidence he called them asking and pretending to be me about when my next apt was or should I have a lawyer get this from the chiropractor incase they are worried it is a legal issue>
thank you for all of your time!! oh and if I do get a RO what is the max in California he may get?
Your lawyer can handle getting the evidence from you chiropractor.
thank you and have a wonderful night !! You were excellent and thank you and happy halloween!
Thank you Alex! I enjoyed talking with you also. I took your advice And got a lawyer here, sent the ceast and disuse And in two weeks is our court date to see if I ca Get the restraining order. He has two priors on records with the San Diego courts for stalking. Possibly A third but it's in the vault or old files. He never showed yo the other hearings do hopefully He won't show to mine either then ill get the ro Thanks again for your help Alex, Jennifer
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