I have thought about this whole situation for a month. By the time I pay a lawyer to represent me, I may as well pay him for the damages that were done to his property. I hate fights. I settled for less than I probably would have received during our divorce to avoid the stress and arguing. But...if I pay him instead of letting him take me to court and try to prove something that is unprovable, doesn't this make me look guilty? I don't want my name ruined. I don't want my character and integrity damaged.
And does he tell the attorney to file a criminal complaint, or does the attorney do that on his own? If he tells the attorney not to file a criminal complaint, is that the end of this situation? Do the police keep this case open while there are so many other situations that are more important than a $750 vandalism case?
I just don't know what to do.
But do the police continue to investigate the criminal aspect of it on their own, or what? When will this part of the situation be over if I settle with him?
And if he tells the lawyer not to file a civil or criminal complaint, can the lawyer do it on his own?
I just want to tie up the loose ends to avoid any potential situations...if I am going to settle with him, I do not want anyone else coming after me. I also want to have him sign a document stating he will not "use this situation" against me in the future. He has obviously met someone out to hurt him and/or me and I need to protect myself since he seems to believe her and not me.
So if he tells the police and his lawyer he wants to drop the matter, can he change his mind later and reopen everything?
How do I make sure this goes away?
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