My daughter recently had an "in your face" altercation with her step daughter, after the girl (age 18) flew in her face with profanities, when she overheard a conversation outlining my daughter's objections to her behavior. This had happened before, that the stepdaughter erupted with obscenities. This time my daughter stood up, went to the phone and called 911, after she shoved Jesse back so she could stand - cops came, grilled the two of them; and an onlooker, when asked who first made physical contact stated that it was my daughter. In reality this step-daughter has been disrespectful, profane, and disobedient constantly for a very long time. My daughter was handcuffed, in jail for several hours until bail was posted; they were both ordered to court
next business day, and ordered not to be in the same house. At that brief appearance, another court date was set for July 8. My question is (this is Kansas) if neither my daughter or the stepdaughter shows up for the court date, is it likely that the whole thing will be dropped? My daughter believes so, after having spoken with someone in the system. The stepdaughter has been advised to drop the whole thing, by everyone around her, and not go to the July 8 appearance - mainly because it is felt that if the court gets the whole picture, she could have serious consequences herself. To complicate matters, my son in law (the step daughter's father) suffers from terminal cancer, and is not well enough to try to deal with any of this. Can you tell us whether my daughter should indeed keep the court date, whether she should retain legal counsel, whether the step daughter should go (her father can persuade her, we think, to do what is right and best). She has moved into an apartment during this interim period and she and my daughter have no contact.