I'm sorry to hear of your dilemma.
You will want to consider filing an Invasion of Privacy suit in civil court (not family law court) and sue your ex for the wiretapping invasion.
Additionally, you might considering reporting his actions to the local Federal Attorney's office, as your husband violated federal law as well, and hopefully the feds will investigate this crime and prosecute it.
The Federal Electronic Communications Privacy Act ("ECPA") prohibits the intentional interception of any wire, oral, or electronic communication, and the unauthorized access of any wire or electronic communication while in storage.
You may sue in Federal Court for the following:
1. Damages for actual harm done plus additional punitive damages intended solely to punish him;
2. Your attorney's fees in prosecuting this case.
Additionally, if convicted criminally, he could be sentenced to up to 5 years in prison.
I wish you the best in 2011.
Because I help people here, like you, for a living---this is not a hobby for me, and I sincerely XXXXX XXXXX abiding by the honor system as regards XXXXX XXXXX I wish you and your family the best in your respective futures.