Great! Very thorough answer. I have just one question left and this is why my family law attorney is dragging his feet. Since the police let him go (in less than a minute with no tests) won't he just argue that he was fine? I have these two statements and could easily get more, and I gave it all to my attorney right away. I told him that I wanted him to file a motion to get my ex doing UA's because currently he is having me do them and he has nothing on me whatsoever, and there is no one icluding our kids who has witnessed me intoxicated. What he has on me is that I went to treatment for a prescription drug addiction over five years ago. I finished treatment and I have had no further incidents, I have no criminal
charges or convictions. Regardless, I am the one who went for help and he has never admitted that anything is ever wrong with him. He is a chronic binge drinker, I had an acute problem following an serious illness and his ruthless attack in the divorce. Both began and ended 2003-2005. He has a new fiance now and they want to control the kids and are pretending that my first thirty years didn't count and especially the past five since 2005. He took action against me as though I hadn't completely rebuilt my life again and the saddest thing is that the courts are so biased and lazy that they pretty much let him do it because it is easier for them than really paying attenton to what really happened. He throws statements around like "once an addict always an addict," and "I'm concerned about a relapse" and the court gobbles it up. He isn't conncerned about a relapse. He couldn't care less about me or the children. He wants control and he wants to continue humiliating me. So, the question is, can witnesses make a more powerful statement than the cops did by letting him go? Oh! And on the releasing of documents to him. I realize that you are right, and the police probably assumed something much different was going on. It was just days after he first filed after all. I believe he got me arrested also by using information I had confided in him . I never thought he'd want me to go to jail esp. after all the times I had protected him from being arrested (for violating restraining orders, domestic violence
, child abuse
, drunk driving, embezzlement, slander, perjury... you name it!). I am trying to reveal his character in court now, and unless I run across a smoking gun
(like a DUI coming home from a holiday party tonight would be handy!) I am just going to have to peel back the onion layer by layer so that everyone can see what I have experienced, and every day there is something that happens. I could at least enter this form in court couldn't I just to show the kind of guy he is. I mean, he claims to be concerned about drugs and the kids, but suddenly I am arrested after I take possession of these financial docs and somehow he ends up at my house not getting extra clothes for the kids since he will presumably be taking care of them for a while, not protecting his children's home, not even checking to see if the police are really finding evidence of a crime or of drug abuse. He was there to get those financial documents, and all I was doing was making copies so we would both have a set to give to our lawyers. Of course, I found all kinds of surprises like my signature forged on many documents I knew nothing about, cancelled checks from our business payable to me that were never received or cashed by me, and a whole host of shifty business that I will probably never be able to prove at this point. I did contact the bank to get what they could out of archives for me, but this was about six months past the date they would still have unfortunately.
Point is this... We were divorced 6 years ago and time has really healed nothing. Now that he is attacking me all over again, I am taking it as an unexpected opportunity to reveal as much truth about what happened as I can. I feel that exposing the truth to the light of day will help me put it all behind me finally, especially if I am successful in turning some things around for the kids. I'm curious what all can be revisted. Can I sue him if I find the evidence that he stole assets or can I sue my lawyer who gave the case away? I suffered from a real disorder called "Legal Abuse Syndrome!" I am serious. Have you heard of it? I couldn't believe it when I was told about this, but it is a recognized disorder that is a form of Post Traumatic Stress brought about by the prolonged conflict and lies that go uncorrected while we watch our assets, our friends, our reputation and even our children get taken from us. My divorce followed the sudden onset of a life-threatening illness. By the time my divorce ended in 2005 I was utterly broken in every way. My life today is unrecognizable as compared to what it was 5 years ago no thanks to my ex husband who basically left me for dead, and for a period of time when I was in treatment he refused to let me talk to the boys because I later realzed he told them I was dead. He fits XXXXX XXXXX's profle to a tee, so Im probably lucky I'm not, and I do believe I would be if he thought he'd get away with it.
Thank you for listening. Big tip if you have any advice or suggestions on any of what I have said here. Ultimately, I want the closest thing to justice
that might exist in this case, and I know that will at the very least include getting the truth in the record and gaining sole legal and physical custody of my sons. I want to say everything that was never said in the divorce. I want to fight for my kids and for what is right. We have paid his debts long enough.