Very sorry for the delay. I went out to dinner with my daughter.
In general, I believe that if people have court matters, it's always a good idea to have a professional representing you than to go it alone, but plenty of people go to hearings such as yours and represent themselves. And if your ex's lawyer bullies you too much, it will probably make you look like you need the order more and not less. Of course, if you can afford a lawyer and he has one, having one certainly can't hurt and may help.
Still, this is not the kind of hearing for which a lawyer is absolutely necessary. If your ex has been violated already for his failure to abide by an order of protection, I can't see why on earth the judge wouldn't grant you an extension. But if you can't afford to get a lawyer, you could probably swing by a Legal Aid office on some day before your hearing date, show them whatever evidence you have and get some quick pointers if you're feeling insecure about it.
But unless there's something you haven't told me, I think this is extension is going to go your way with or without a laywer.
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