Dear jacustomer, these questions far exceed your original post and some of them would need to be addressed with your immigration attorney. Suffice it to say, they can charge you even after you go and if you miss the court date, they will likely issue a warrant for you arrest. It may impede your ability to get back into the country or leave te country - again, that is an immigration issue.
YOu indicate you spoke to the police - did they say you were going to be charged? That is the only way you will know for sure, prior to it occurring.
I would not send a civil demand check if there has been no civil demand.
Yes, it is confusing - usually if the police are called they wish to press charges. But again, you won't know til you get there. I would have my attorney (criminal defense is what you should hire), contact the store and/or the police and run some interference for you, explaining the situation - at least then you can know and perhaps resolve it, given the fact that you now indicate your are actually innocent of theft and could actually get it dismissed if you have the appropriate attorney working on it for you.
You also never mentioned in your post that they "send the documents and stuff"". What documents.
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S. Joy, Legal Expert