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you can speak to the victim/witness unit in the state's attorney's office - you have a right as the "victim" - you will need to discuss this with them and see if they will recall the subpoena or if they need your testimony, etc. if you do not appear on the subpoena, it is possible the state can have a warrant issued for your contempt of court. so contact them as soon as possible.
yes. if talked directly to the prosecutor then that is the decision. they make all the decisions in these matters - though you can still speak to a victim/witness coordinator who might be able to listen to your reasoning and speak with the prosecutor again. a doctor's note would only postpone the hearing; you would be subpoenaed again. if you are in contempt you could be held at the discretion of the judge without bond until the hearing to make sure you are there.
i understand what you are going through, but you do not want to make it bad for yourself and your children. i still say call and speak to the VW coordinator. see if they can help you out in any way.