Over the years, the police have become very aggressive in taking action in domestic violence
circumstances. This is understandable because of issues of the victim being fearful and the aggressor being so controlling, that the victim may recant not because there isn't an issue but because she (and sometimes he) is afraid of what will happen later.
That being said, both the prosecutor and the victim's assistance should listen to your side of the story and take your wishes under consideration. Just because charges have been filed does not mean that the prosecutor has to pursue the case. The prosecutor can dismiss the charges, if he/she feels that the circumstances warrants it. The story you convey will help. I would contact victim's assistance (or whatever your local equivalent is called) and let them know how you feel and that you want to speak with the prosecutor. In the cases I have prosecuted, I have always wanted to speak with the "victim" before being willing to consider dismissing the case.
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