These cases are not dismissed lightly. In domestic violence cases, the prosecutor does not even need you to testify to prosecute the case. You cannot argue with the police about the charges because it is not their call to make. The prosecutor is the only one who can decide whether or not to proceed with a case. The prosecutor is not likely to dismiss the case if he has evidence and does not need your testimony.
Your best bet is to set a meeting with the prosecutor and explaining your reasons for not wanting to proceed with charges against your husband. You may have a better chance with getting the prosecutor to dismiss if you agree that you and your husband will go for counseling and asking if he would dismiss the charge upon your showing him proof you have both completed counseling. Generally, this works with prosecutors better than simply going in and demanding they drop charges and telling them that you just do not want to pursue the matter.
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