Nope, not purple JHoop. Got back out to it today in the daylight and the one that went to the small connector on the selenoid was redish.
Did see a purple wire coming from the harness, it goes to a relay labeled as OMRON 12177235. Since its a relay, going away from the idea of thinking this is "rigged". Can see one at this link:
Checked continuity and in that relay the purple appears to connect to the redish one that goes to the selenoid small connector.
But also connecting to that relay is one of the three wires that was originally on the power post of the selenoid, which is on the side of the relay (and connects to) the small black wire that was originally connected to one of the long bolts that actually holds the starter motor together.
Which was where my problem started, because I wasn't eager to remove one of the bolts that hold the new $175 starter together if that wasn't the standard procedure.
And none of the books or directions that I've gotten say to do that.
The third wire that was originally connected to the selenoid power post goes into a different harness and my guess would be it sends full-time 12v to somewhere else in the car - so not really worried about that one.
So, since they bothered to put in a relay and are running the ignition wire thru it to the selenoid and then running 12v to it then running a wire out of it - guessing that extra wire should connect somewhere - but still not eager to unbolt what holds the starter together to connect it without some professional advise giving me a good reason to go that route.
Can you make me feel good about it, or should I be connecting the extra wire from the relay somewhere else? And can I kill my starter if I hit a bad combination?