My name is ***** ***** certified professional with over 10 years experience. I will be glad to assist you with this.
I am sorry to hear that you are having this issue.
Unfortunately the only way to monitor an iPhone or iMessage is by using the Apple ID and password.
Hi there! My name is***** am a computer professional with over 15 years of experience with both Mac and Windows computers, phones, tablets, and printers. I understand that Randy's answer was no the answer that you were hoping for, It is nonetheless, the correct answer. There are several Services that make it easy to monitor your child's iPhone activity, but they all require that you know the childs's account name and password. You will either have to know it to install a program on the device, or you will have to provide it to them so they can monitor the account through their service. If you have the information originally, but your child later changes it, the service will cease to work, unless you update the password ***** too. There is no way around this. This is a large part of why the Apple devices are so secure.
One such service that I have personal experience with is TeenSafe.com. You can click on that link to learn more about it. They will verify that you do indeed need the child's account name and password.
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