Now the ear issue sounds minor. Therefore, one would just want to keep it clean and let it heal as it is. If she is shaking her head or scratching at it (or her ears), then it could be secondary to an ear infection that would need to be treated.
Otherwise, the sneezing as well does sound to be a secondary issue. Often when cats are elderly, immunosuppressed, or going through something else, we can see mild flu signs arise. Often they do last a few weeks before they settle. Of course, supportive care can be of benefit. So, while the lack of discharge means we don't need to rush to start antibiotics, we can steam treat her (using a humidifier or shower steam, non-medicated saline nasal drops, and offer warmed smell canned foods to keep her getting nutrition/fluids into her.
Those aside, the tail is our main worry here. It isn't likely linked to the above issues. Now its good that she felt that pinch, since we can see lowered/dragged tails related to loss of tail nerve function and/or spinal disease. Since she can feel and move it, those would be less likely. Instead, we'd have to consider that since she can lift it but is not, that she may be holding it down due to discomfort. Common causes for that will be constipation (less likely here), anal gland issues, arthritis, and discomfort if she has had a fall or injury that she has not told us about. And if she isn't walking as much or as well, those last few become real worries for Gracie.
With this all in mind and since it has been 2 weeks already, it really would be ideal to have her seen. I appreciate she isn't keen on vet visits, but having a home visit from her regular vet or seeing if there is a mobile vet in your area that could come to her may be a way to get around that for her. And that way they can fully assess all those problem issues I noted and determine which is causing her bother here. And if they did find one of these focuses of discomfort, they could address it and start her on cat safe pain relief (since human ones are toxic for them)
Otherwise, as long as you don't think she is in severe discomfort, you could consider trying her with OTC nutrient supplements. These can at least help with arthritis and discomfort from possible mild injury. In regards ***** ***** we do find fish oil (Omega 3 +6) beneficial as it is a natural anti-inflammatory. When offering this we tend to give 20mg per pound of their body weight and many cats have no qualms about a bit of fish flavor added to their food. And its available over the counter at your vet, pet stores, and local health food stores. Otherwise, glucosamine/chondroitin supplementation can be of use in situations of kitty discomfort. These work by aiding joint suppleness by helping cartilage replenish itself and blocking enzyme destruction of cartilage in the joint. Often we can find this helpful in animals with arthritis. Normally we give kitties 50mg glucosamine + 15mg chondroitin aday per 10 pounds of body weight. So, this too would be something to consider for her.
Overall, it sounds like Gracie has a few different issues brewing. So, we'd want to use supportive care for the ear and sneezing. Otherwise, we can try the above for her tail since her signs suggest she is uncomfortable holding it up instead of being unable to. Though if that continues despite home care, we'd really want to have the vet out to her to just make sure she isn't severely sore and needing kitty safe pain relief for her wee tail.
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