We own things together even after being separated and also bought things together after being separated but only to better things and with the hope of maybe getting back together, I received a $140,000 payout while she lived on her own and I paid her gas card and helped pay expenses too and she paid too, we still share a bank account but only for convenience. After receiving my money I told her about it and she said buy me a house in the town I live in or I will divorce you and take you for everything. She went to counseling and I wanted too with her but her counselor told her that I need a taste of my own medicine. I feel wronged and stupid for giving in and need help and I feel like I have know hope because she is a woman and the judge will make me sell everything that we own. I live in our other house that we bought with my money before we were married and raised her three children who are now raised and on their own but call me Dad. I'm just confused.