I understand where you are coming from. However, whether I was rude or not is one person's perception. The answer you have given doesn't really answer what I am trying to find out. So, I will try to discuss it further so I don't confuse you.
First, I want to let you know that I will try my hardest in my future non-verbal daily communications not to seem rude to anyone. I never knew I came across rude
as this teacher seems to think.
It was a good thing to let me know about being rude on the job and the consequences.
I am not worried about my employment. In the 15 years I have been with this district, I have been an exemplary employee with a clean file. As a matter of fact I have so much documentation regarding a lot of harrassment issues that I have never pursued. So, I am not worried about my job.
Concerned, I asked a volunteer student that comes in daily from the High School if I was rude to this parent. She informed she did not perceive me as rude.
I noticed that the volunteer student was even distrubed by the odor; she moved away from this parent several times.
I do not feel I was rude. I was trying to make my work environment better for me and the student I work with. We were at the same table in the back of the classroom.
Today, I went to apologize to the teacher. I have to be honest. It wasn't a sincere apology because I feel I was not rude. I just want to work without feelings of conflict.
The teacher said, I offended her, the teacher. If she had a camera she would have shown me the facial non-verbal expressions. She stated, that the students haven't complained, so there is no issue.
I let her know that she is at the front of the class, she doesn't get the same odor
strength we do at the back of the classroom. It is absolutely nauseating and over pungent.
She was lecturing. She accused me of purposely opening the door when
the lawn mower outside was running. The lawn mower was not running when she was lecturing. It started about 20 minutes after I had opened the door. I never heard the lawn mower until then.
Is it fair for the student's and the employee's to have to endure this smell just because
the person is a parent volunteer? Just because the teacher doesn't want to offend her?
The parent is of a different culturem but so am I.
Anyway, I stopped any discussion with the teacher. I just said it won't happen again.
Just for information she is not my boss. The principal is. I just work in her class
with a one on one student who has learning disabilities. I did not go to the principal.
My perceptoin of the principal is that he basically backs up the teacher's no matter what. As an instructionaI, to bring an issue to his attention, is not a good idea.
All it would take is one parent complaining about her child enduring this smell
and then there would be a conflict between 2 parents.
So what I am really asking is the following:
Why do I have to endure this smell? I am a human being too.
Why do the student's have to endure this smell?
Is there a law that a volunteer can not be told not volunteer because they really aren't needed. There are so many parent's that come into the classroom that she really isn't needed. But this teacher likes the more the better.
This teacher, knowing, the situation, has encouraged this parent to volunteer more hours.
I just don't get it?
Most student's would be scared to say anything unless they brought it to their parent's attention. Especially, 3rd graders who tend to not voice certain issues.
I lknow I am coming across very frustratred. I have nothing against this parent. I think it is great what she is doing in her son't class. But sometimes, there are exceptions to the rule.
I am trying how to resolve this on my part. I even suggested to the teacher that I go to the library with the student I assist. She said we'll see. This student is on a modified
curriculum and can't follow the class teachings. She is at a different level and we take
it slow with her because of her extreme learning disability.
I am trying to find out if I have any rights in this matter as a paid employee.
Isn't the employee environment important? What about the student's exposure ?
Please reply to my situation. I don't know if I have made it clearer or more confusing.
I apologize if that is the case.