I think from what you replied that there is something you may be unclear about. First off, the son is letting himself in when his mother is not available for a visit. Of course the children are free to visit her but we have to allow her to sleep as long as she wants and put her to bed when she asks us to if it is earlier than her usual time.
I also know that he's had the keys from back when his mother was competent and he was able to stay with her. The situation is different now.
I'm not out to control who visits her, I just think I should have control over who is intruding on my peace of mind.
It sounds like you are telling me that some guy can just walk in on any of us and hang around when he is not someone we wish to see.
I consider the use of the room as part of our arrangement, as if we are "paying" to stay there as the client is covering any extra expenses we incur like for more utilities.
We had established that he can no longer stay with her when he visits since we are there and it is inappropriate to share the place as there is no room...3 of us are married and 2 of the ladies are Mennonites.
When she is in bed, we ladies keep a baby monitor on and I leave the bedroom and the bathroom door open and if the house is locked up, I feel I should not have to worry about someone walking in on me. The bathroom door is directly across from the garage entry which he has been know to use. I've had times when I had to throw a towel around myself to go see what she needs as I don't even want to come to her without some dignity for myself.
I was never under any kind of official contract...I just started working for her and was asked for my SSN for the end of the year 1099. I've been with her 1st P/T then F/T for almost 3 1/2 years and all of us ladies have provided her with top notch care.
If he's not doing anything technically "illegal", it is sure bad behavior that creates bad morale. I'm sure that even if he doesn't have a key, he's think it is ok to just barge in once the door is opened.
Has anything changed in your eyes by anything I've written?