I find it hard to believe they're completely different components when they are physically identical & have the same number "15328866" on them. Like I say, when I swapped them the symptoms didn't change...the high beams still worked. If they were different then something weird should have happened. I would imagine they're both "solid state" relays...mechanical ones haven't been used for years.
My wife has the car today...I'll do it this evening or tomorrow. In the meantime I've attached some files of what my owners manual shows. As you can see, #34 & #35 are the same physical size. I don't have a parts list to verify whether they are the exact same part but as I stated before the markings on them are identical.
Maybe my owners manual is in error or maybe I'm misunderstanding how to use it.
I have a gray "can" in both spots. When my wife gets home I'll take a picture & send it. There has to be an easy explanation for all of this.
You're right... I blew it!!! My apologies...sometimes I get absent-minded & this must be one of them. The same part shown in your pictures is in spot #35. Answer back & I'll be more than happy to pay you.