I am a bankruptcy attorney and I would be happy to assist you. A 341 meeting is not eligible to be held via correspondence. I am sorry if you received information previously that was incorrect from another source.
In extreme circumstances, it may be held via telephone though. Even then, it is rarely granted. It may only be arranged with the trustee
directly, and not be motion. Situations where a debtor may appear under telephone include the debtor being in the hospital. Being merely disabled is not enough. Even if a debtor is in a wheelchair or on crutches, they must attend in person. this may seem unfair; however, the rules apply to everyone, since the debtor must appear in person so the trustee can verify they are the ones who filed bankruptcy. Think of this as protecting you, since you would not want someone to steal your social security number and I.D. It is up to the debtor to make arrangements to get to the court house. Every federal court house is equipped with ramps & amenities for the disabled. If the debtor could not speak or was in a hospital they could not leave, then they can ask for the 341 by phone, in which case the debtor would have to pay for a person to swear the debtor in, in the debtor's presence, while they are on the phone with the trustee. Other situations include the debtor giving a Power of Attorney to a family member on their behalf, but this is also not typically permitted and must be approved in advance by the trustee. There is no motion for asking to attend a 341 by other means. Each case must be approved by the trustee directly and the trustee will provide you the forms needed or direct you to the court personnel who can give them to you. The trustee will not grant anything lightly, and instead will typically reschedule the 341 to a few weeks later when the debtor may attend. If you can not attend the 341 you must call the trustee's office directly as soon as possible and explain your circumstances. You may be able to ask for a telephone hearing and ask if they can send you the forms to request one. But remember, merely being disabled is not enough. Regardless, you should contact the trustee directly.
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