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I'm sorry to hear about your situation. :(
They are correct about dropping the charges. In criminal cases, you're the VICTIM, not the person bringing charges. It's the State versus your partner. This means they can continue with the charges even if you don't want to drop them. However....
In this case, it appears that there are no major injuries and he does not have a history of violence against you. In that case, if you continue to maintain that you do not want to proceed with the charges, it's likely that they will eventually be dropped once a prosecutor looks at the facts and talks to you personally. I know you're worried, but the State rarely proceeds on cases like these against the victim's wishes unless there are major injuries or damage.
Also, just as an FYI, I'm sure you're realized by now that calling the police to have someone "just fix the holes" is not the best idea. If you call the police over a domestic argument/fight, they are under obligation to arrest someone in most cases.
I hope this helps. :)
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