If a will names both your husband and yourself as beneficiaries, then clearly he would be entitled to have a say as to what happens to at least half of any bequest.
If a will names only you as a beneficiary, as would be likely under your Mother's will, that is your money.
Unless you agree to pay him the money to use for his debts, you decide what to do with it. Similarly, in your husband's case, if his mother's will names him only as a beneficiary, that money is his to do with as he chooses.
I trust this has answered your question.
That is unfortunate.
Perhaps your mother could consider changing her will with instructions to executor that your bequest must be invested for a period of time before being released to you. This period of time could equate to the time it will take your husband to pay off his debts. You need to discuss your predicament with your Mum and arrange to see a lawyer and explain your predicament and see if the lawyer can draft the will in this way.
Just a thought. It would get around the problem of him demanding it from you because you actually will not get it until xx.xx.20xx.
I hope this helps.
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